You like sex. Love it even. In a perfect world, you’d have more, satisfying, and maybe an even more orgasmic sex life. But work sucks or your life feels chaotic. Stress, exhaustion, and sleepless nights killed your libido. What can do you to fix it? Short of quitting your job and moving to a deserted island, find ways to relax and unwind.
Essential oils, with intoxicating scents, especially when added to a sensual massage oil, may be exactly what you need. The right smell triggers physical and emotional reactions. Being touched – or touching – your partner in an extremely intimate way can bring you closer together. Even better, the act of running your hands along your partner’s skin, can be sexual and orgasmic all on it’s own or possibly lead to a deeper intimacy and better sex.
Here’s what you need to know about essential oils and finding the right scent to improve your sex life and libido.
Change Your Mood
The right scent affects your mood. Think about it. Smell something awful, and you wrinkle your nose in disgust, but smell something divine, and you’re transported to another place. Smells carries emotions, memories, and the ability to change how you feel – at least temporarily. The power of essential oils is in the scent they hold. When you’re too stressed out for sex, the right smell can calm you down and help you unwind. If you lack energy and desire for sex, the perfect scent can stimulate your brain and body.
Not every essential oil will work the same for everyone. You’ll need to test different oils and scents to find what your mind and body enjoy best. You can even create or buy blends of multiple essential oils if one scent alone isn’t enough. The right blend can impact you in the most positive and pleasurable way.
Finding the Right Scent
Since scent is so important and there are so many to choose from, starting with popular essential oils that are known to be effective can be helpful. Remember, everyone responds to scents in their own way. Don’t feel bad if a scent known for increasing desire and stimulating your mind doesn’t do anything for you.
Common essential oils to try include:
- Rose with a floral and sweet scent stimulates the mind and body.
- Jasmine is exotic and relaxing. It’s said to boost the mind
- Cinnamon warms the body and senses and is thought to increase blood flow and circulation
- Peppermint smells invigorating and fresh. It’s a scent you either love or hate.
- Clary sage is considered a balancing scent and has been shown to act a little like an antidepressant in menopausal women.
- Ylang ylang may not be one you know well but it gives off a rich, romantic, and soothing scent
- Lavender produces a well-known a floral smell that’s associated with fresh, clean, and most of all, peace and tranquility.
The essential oil that works best depends on more than the scent but also on what’s killing your libido. Stressed and anxious? A calming smell may be what you need. Exhausted and low energy? Pick something that perks you up.
Using Essential Oils in Sensual Massage
Use your essentials oils in a variety of ways. Add it to your perfume or use skin and hair care products with your favorite scents. Diffuse it to breathe in the scent. To get yourself or your partner in the right mood, choose the most delicious and direct way: sensual massage.
Sensual massage not only allows you to connect with your partner through skin-to-skin contact, it acts as a perfect vehicle for adding intoxicating and arousing scents. It doesn’t matter whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of a massage, you both inhale the smell and feel the benefit. Now add the sensation of being touched in an intimate way, over every inch of skin. Slick fingers will slip into secrets spots on your body, allowing the physical sensation to work with the enticing scent. Before you know it, you’ll be ready for whatever turns both you and your partner on.
Essential oils won’t fix every stressor you have but they may help your mood. Sensual massage allows you to relax, reconnect with your partner, and enjoy sex in a new or more relaxed way. Find the scent that speaks to you – and your partner – and experiment with different applications, including sensual massage oil.
Do you use sensual massage and/or essential oils as part of your sex life? Share your experiences in the comments below!