Spice it Up with These New Ways to Use Your Fleshlight

At first glance, you may think there’s only way to use a masturbator. Insert penis, thrust, get off. Later, rinse, repeat, right?


There are actually many ways to use a fleshlight. With a little creativity and a willingness to think outside the box, you can get several different sensations from just one toy. Don’t know where to start? Don’t worry. Men the world over have paved the way for you. The vagina might be fake, but the orgasm won’t be. Here is your guide to creative fleshlight usage.

1.  The Shoe Trick

Rather than jerking yourself off, go hands-free by placing the fleshlight into a shoe—insertable end facing outward. Push the toy as far into the shoe as you can and place it on a flat surface. Any shoe will work although those with a low profile (like Converse) can mimic the feeling of missionary.

2. Mutual Masturbation

Ever gotten yourself off while your partner does the same? Don’t discredit it; it can be a really sexy way to build tension before you have sex with each other. It’s also a great opportunity to learn what the other likes through observation (bonus points for avoiding the dreaded “talk” about what turns you on and off). Use your stroker while your partner uses a toy on him/herself. Don’t forget the dirty talk and eye contact.

3. Get a Helping Hand

Similarly, have your partner use your fleshlight on you. If your lover is female, it’s a great way for her to exercise control and deny you the real thing (so hot if you’re into power play). It’s also a welcomed change from the usual motions you’ve grown accustomed to. Chances are he or she isn’t going to do you the same way you’d do yourself in terms of rhythm and intensity.

4. Try the Fleshlight Motion

While certainly a much more elaborate setup, Fleshlight Motion allows you to come hands free and provides a more dignified approach when compared to, say, the shoe trick. You can opt for missionary, doggy style, or cowgirl hardware and experience a masturbator the way God intended…with minimal work and the stability that comes from a sturdy foundation. It’s as close as you’ll get to actual sex with a woman.

5. The Mattress Trick

If you’re not interested in dropping $100 or more on the Fleshlight Motion, you can still MacGyver your way to a hands-free orgasm by wedging the stroker between your mattress and the box spring. If you don’t use a box spring, you can always wrap the toy in a towel or sweatshirt and place it between pillows or couch cushions. You may experience trial and error the first couple of times, but it’s well worth the effort.

6. Go Skinless!

Don’t worry about breaking the fleshlight—it’s more durable than you think. If you’ve only ever masturbated with the case attached, you’re missing out on the sensations you get from the opposite end. Simply remove the sleeve from the case, and stretch it over your penis (balls too!) and feel all textures as you move it in and out. Use both hands for added pressure.


The fleshlight is one of the most versatile male sex toys on the market today. It continues to get rave reviews for its durability, price points, and lifelike design. If you’re feeling bored with your masturbator, mix up your solo session with a new method or shop for a different model. When real sex isn’t an option in the heat of the moment, you’ll be glad you made the investment.

How do you like to play with your Fleshlight? Let us know in the comments below!

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