Should You Buy a Sex Toy as a Gift?

Whether it’s Christmas, Hanukkah, Valentine’s Day, or their birthday, you might be tempted to buy your significant other a sex toy as a gift. In some cases, this can lead to a sexy good time for both of you. But in others, it can create awkward silence and a request for the receipt.

If you’re thinking of buying a sex toy as a gift, here’s what you need to know before you start shopping.

Ask Yourself a Few Questions

Ask Yourself a Few QuestionsNot every sex toy works for everyone, and just because a brand or type of toy is popular doesn’t mean your partner will enjoy it. So before you buy anything, ask yourself a few questions.

Do you know what they enjoy? Basically, are you far enough in your relationship that you know what gets them off? This is essential in buying a sex toy that has a chance of feeling good to them. Some people want clitoral stimulation instead of g-spot. Others love good anal play but don’t want anything too big. Knowing what they like means you know enough to possibly find something they’ll like.

Have you used sex toys together? This means you have an idea of what they like, and you know they’re comfortable with sex toys. Alternately, if you haven’t used sex toys during sex but know your partner has them, this gives you vital information, too. Buying a sex toy can be a very personal thing and that might not be something your partner wants to share with you.

Do they share their sexual fantasies with you? Knowing a partner’s fantasies could help you find a special surprise for them. If they’ve indicated an interest in bondage or spankings, you might buy bondage gear for beginners or a kit to let them experiment. But the fantasies they share should be specific enough that you can shop confidently.

Have you shopped for sex toys together? Having shopped together in the past makes buying a gift now much easier. You’ve talked about specific toys and probably have a good idea of what your partner would like or want. Maybe they dropped heavy hints about something they’d love to try. If this one is a yes, start shopping.

Did they say they want a specific sex toy? Whether in passing conversation or while you were shopping together, if they told you what toy they wanted, you’re golden. This means they’ve communicated exactly what sex toy they’re interested in. Buying it could be the perfect gift, and it’ll show that you’re paying attention.

If you answer “No” to most of these questions, you may want to wait a while before you buy a sex toy. But if you can confidently answer “Yes!” then it’s time to start shopping!

Rules for Giving a Sex Toy as a Gift

Rules for Giving a Sex Toy as a GiftThere’s no rulebook on how to give your significant other a sex toy gift, but here are some things you should definitely keep in mind.

  • Whatever sex toy you buy is for your partner — or it’s for both of you based on conversations you’ve had. You shouldn’t give your partner a sex toy with an expectation that you’ll have a good time. Like all gift-giving, this is about them, not you.
  • Plan a good time to give your gift. In the middle of dealing with a family visit or wrapping presents for the kids might not be the best time. After a heavy meal when all your partner wants to do is nap isn’t great either. Try to find a quiet time when they can play with their toy — if they want to.
  • Keep the receipt and check the return policy. Even if you do all your research and feel certain this is a good gift, they might not want it.
  • Never pressure your partner to try a sex toy or make them feel bad if they don’t like it. Sex toys are inherently personal, and not every toy works for everyone.

When in doubt, buy a gift card. If you know your partner is curious about buying adult toys or loves them, let them pick it out. This removes the pressure from you to pick the perfect sex toy and the pressure from them to love it because you gave it to them.


A sex toy may sound like the perfect sexy or romantic gift, and it can be. But make sure you have enough information to make a good choice and that it’s something your partner really wants. Finding the right toy can add heat, spice, and fireworks to your partner’s sexual pleasure — and yours. Buying the wrong one can be awkward, uncomfortable, and a mood killer. Whenever you’re ready to buy a sexy gift, Jack and Jill Adult has everything you need.

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