It’s almost too easy for masturbation (or sex with a partner) to become a habit that you do mindlessly without reallly thinking about it, even with a vibrator. You always know you touch yourself here, place your vibrator there, your partner licks here, and it works. And there’s nothing wrong with this kind of comforting ritual of pleasure. But if you want sexual pleasure that’s unlike anything you’ve experienced in the past, with your favorite vibrator, it may be time to try something new.
When you want to turn up the heat on your sexual pleasure, fantasy can play a big role for many people. Think about who else might be in the bed with you (yes, even if your partner is already with you). Imagine what a hand, tongue, or other body part might feel. Your vibrator stops being a tool and can become the star. On the right setting, your wand might be the tongue of a sexy fantasy partner. With enough intensity, you can picture yourself in the center of a kinky scene where your orgasms and vibrator are under someone else’s control. How your vibrator and orgasm figure into your fantasies is up to you but the right fantasy in your head can intensify the entire experience.
Watch Porn or Read Erotica
If coming up with your sexual fantasy seems a bit daunting, you’re not alone. Sometimes it’s hard to imagine what might happen, and we need a bit of outside help. This is where porn or erotica (depending on your preferences) can help. Instead of using your vibrator in a utilitarian way (you want an orgasm, you apply the vibrator, you get off), let your mind and body become aroused before you grab your favorite vibe. Even better, you can use it while you read or watch so that as your arousal builds from what you see and hear, your vibrator will add sensation to get you off in the way that you love. It often turns into a much more intense orgasm.
Try a New Setting
If you want a different outcome, you need a different path forward. So instead of your typical straight, buzzing, high-powered vibration (or whatever you prefer), try a pattern or decrease the setting on your vibrator. Experiment with sensations to find something pleasing that doesn’t get you off in the exact same way. Your orgasm may build more slowly, but it might be something that curls your toes, makes you scream, and gets you off in an entirely new way. The key with a setting change is to be patient with your body and give yourself a few minutes before you reject one stimulation over another (unless you know you hate it, then move on as soon as possible.)
Try a New Position
For many women, the only way they can orgasm during partnered sex is with the help of a vibrator. There’s no shame in this. Body shapes don’t always cooperate with the angle of your preferred sex position. Adding a sex toy enhances the experience for everyone, especially if what you want is a good orgasm. But if you’re looking for a way to change up (and possibly improve) your O, try a different sex position. As long as your vibrator reaches your clitoris or G-spot, and you and your partner are both comfortable, go for it. The change in position may add new sensations that you love. When partnered with the vibrations from your favorite toy, the pleasure you feel intensifies into an orgasm you may never have experienced before.
Add Other Stimulation
It’s easy to forget that sexual pleasure is one of those moments in life where multitasking isn’t a bad idea. Not being able to focus on any single sensation can make the entire experience better. Just because you’re already using your vibrator doesn’t mean you can’t add something else to the mix. Maybe it’s your partner’s hands, tongue, and body. Maybe it’s your own hand. But it could be a set of nipple clamps or a butt plug. Maybe you play with two vibrators at once — an insertable vibrator and a finger vibrator, a vibrating penis ring and vibrating butt plug, the possibilities are endless. And the result is overwhelming sexual pleasure and orgasms you didn’t realize were possible.
A good orgasm is nothing to complain about. Many people would love a few good orgasms in their life. But if you want to experiment with pleasure and sensation and discover just how amazing you can feel when you use your vibrator, there are ways to turn up the heat for yourself. Just remember, it’s not a competition, and if you stress yourself out about getting off, you won’t enjoy yourself as much. Relax, make sure your vibe has plenty of battery life, and have fun!
Have you tried any of these tips before? Will you try any when you use your vibrator next? Let us know in the comments below!