Orgasms, when you have them, feel amazing. Thanks to a lack of sex education for most of us, we don’t always know what kind of pleasure and orgasms our bodies are even capable of. We turned to a couple of experts to help explain different types of genital orgasms and how sex toys can help you explore your body and get off in the process.
“The clitoris is a small organ filled with nerve endings that sits just above the vaginal opening,” states mental health nurse and coach, Gill Davidson (facebook.com/thedifferenceisyou/). “Orgasm happens when it is stimulated, usually by touching or rubbing.”
For those who have experienced clitoral orgasms, you already know how good it can feel. Any sex toy that focuses the sensation or intensifies the stimulation can help. Many people use vibrators in a variety of styles to make this happen.
“The ‘G-spot’ is the urethral sponge, sensitive tissue that surrounds the urethra and becomes engorged with arousal,” states clinical sexologist, Sarah Melancon, Ph.D. While some experts contend the “G-spot” does not exist in that its a specific organ or location, stimulating this area of the body definitely causes pleasure for some people. But that doesn’t always mean it’s as simple as find the G-spot and rub.
“Curved sex toys can be helpful to reach this area, about two inches inside the front wall of the vagina,” says Dr. Melancon. “If penetration occurs too early, it may be uncomfortable. If stimulating the G-spot creates an ‘I have to pee’ feeling, that’s a sign your partner is not aroused enough.”
“Cervical orgasms may be the least well-known female orgasm,” states Dr. Melancon. “Cervical stimulation requires a high level of arousal and deep penetration, so warming up with the clitoris and vulva first is essential. The cervix is innervated by the hypogastric, pelvic, and vagus nerves.”
Longer sex toys, whether vibrators or dildos, may help during penetration. Because arousal and a long warm-up plays a key part, any sex toy that stimulates and excites any part of the clitoris or vagina will definitely help.
If you’ve got a penis, you already know how all of this works, but we didn’t want to leave it out, either! “The penis and scrotum are innervated by the pudendal nerve, which is similar to the clitoris,” states Dr. Melancon. You already know to grab it, stroke it, and get yourself off.
Of course, sex toys can play a huge part in getting off. “Masturbator toys have grown in popularity over the last decade, including masturbation sleeves or insertable toys (like the Fleshlight and similar models),” states Dr. Melancon. Don’t forget, you can also use penis rings and penis pumps to enhance your orgasm.
“Prostate play [prostate massage] can be enjoyed on its own, or alongside penile stimulation,” says Dr. Melancon. “The prostate is about the size of a walnut and is innervated by the hypogastric nerve.”
While you can always use your finger to find it, a sex toy may help. “Butt plugs or curved prostate toys can help reach the area, which is typically about one or two inches inside the front wall of the anus.” You may be able to tell you’ve reached it, with a finger, because it often feels different from the surrounding tissue. You may also know you’ve reached it because it feels so good.
Even without a prostate, orgasms from anal play definitely occur says Dr. Melancon. “The anus is innervated by the pelvic nerve, just like the vagina. Butt plugs and dildos can be a big help” in leading to orgasm through anal stimulation.
During masturbation, many of us focus on a specific spot, stimulate that spot, and stop when we get off. Blended orgasms tend to occur when multiple parts of the body get turned on and stimulated all at once. For some people, this is a happy accident, and for others, it’s a requirement to get off at all.
When people think of “vaginal” orgasms, they tend to think of G-spot stimulation. The reality is that cis women and other people with vulvas often need multiple forms of stimulation. During partnered sex, when hands, lips, and sex toys may be in multiple places, orgasm is often achieved because of the total experience, not just direct stimulation of a single spot.
Sex toys, from vibrators, clamps, dildos, butt plugs, to any other toy, help make these orgasms a reality because they provide stimulation to one part of the body while your hands (or your partners hands) stimulate other areas. It’s the very definition of multi-tasking, in the best possible way.
An orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal of masturbation or partnered sex. Arousal, time to relax, physical closeness, and exploration are all great reasons to get naked and touch yourself or each other. But understanding which parts of the body can experience arousal to the point of orgasm may help you explore your body in new and exciting ways. And if you need a little help, adult toys make great tools for finding new spots and getting you off.
Do you use sex toys to have an orgasm? What’s your favorite to use? Share with us in the comments below!