4 Ways to Add Sex Toys to Your Relationship

Valentine’s Day is closing in fast, and if you’re in a relationship you might already be in a debate of how to make it special. You can do dinner, candy, flowers, and the typical stuff, or you can make it hot and spicy with sex toys.

If spending a night in, naked and making all kinds of sexy noise with your partner sounds like a perfect way to celebrate Valentine’s Day, include an adult toy to take your mutual pleasure to the next level. Need some ideas on what to do? We’ve got a few.

Masturbate Together

While many people think of masturbation as something you do when you’re alone, it’s definitely a couples activity, too. Masturbating together is sexy and educational. Depending on your comfort level, you can watch each other or simply touch yourselves and each other. If it leads to other kinds of sexy fun, great. If all you do is hit your own personal hotspots until you’re done, that’s good too.

What sex toys can you use? Anything you like — vibrators, dildos, penis rings, anal plugs, body massagers — literally any sex toy is okay. If you’re still a little uncomfortable wanking in front of a partner, use a toy that nearly always gets you off or makes you forget everything else. Once you’re in the middle of some serious self-love, you’ll forget how awkward you feel with an audience.

Use Toys Designed for Two

Any sex toy can be a “couples” sex toy but some are designed with two people in mind. The specific toys that work for you and your partner will depend on the stimulation you enjoy and your anatomy.

Penis rings: Designed to restrict blood flow and maintain an erection long, penis rings for two usually vibrate against the other partner’s body with each thrust. In most uses, these rings have a bullet vibrator attached — which may be removable — to stimulate the clitoris.

Double-sided dildos: If both you and your partner want to be penetrated at the same time, a dildo made for two can be a great option. It’s important to find a size and style that feels good for both of you. Once you have that, the next fun thing is to find a rhythm together.

We-Vibe Sync: The Sync by We-Vibe is specifically for penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. The vibrator has two “arms” – one that is inserted to reach the g-spot and one that touches the clitoris. As penetration occurs, vibrations are transmitted vaginally and through the penis. It can be used with a remote control and a mobile app so you can adjust the settings without disengaging.

Try a Mobile App Sex Toy

Speaking of mobile apps, many sex toys now include a mobile app to let a couple play together, although only one of you feels the sensations. If you’re in a long distance relationship or want to give one partner control over the other’s pleasure, this is the way to go. You can get kinky with power exchange – letting one partner have control. Or you can explore new ways to masturbate when you can’t be together. Is it really masturbation if one of you uses a vibrator, but the other person controls it?

More companies offer a mobile app with their toys. A few brands to consider include We-Vibe, Vibratissimo, Remoji, and Blue Motion.

Add Your Favorite Toy During Penetrative Sex

Penetrative sex, either anal or vaginal, is a great time to add a sex toy. This isn’t a criticism of the penetrating partner, but sometimes a penis or dildo can’t reach all the right spots. Since the whole point is for both partners to have a good time and feel good, adding a sex toy that can hit the good spots makes sense.

If you’re not quite sure what to try, here are a few ideas. Once you bring your vibrator, dildo, or any other sex toy to bed with you and your partner, you’ll find all kinds of ways to play.

  • Press a vibrator or wand against your clitoris during vaginal penetration.
  • Insert an anal plug for extra stimulation during vaginal penetration.
  • Wear a penis ring while stroking yourself during anal penetration.
  • Insert a vibrator or dildo into your vagina during anal penetration.
  • If you’re using a strap-on for penetration, use a dildo that provides stimulation to you while you wear it.

No matter what kind of penetrative sex you enjoy with your partner, there’s a way to add a sex toy into the fun.


Whether it’s a random night in or a way to celebrate Valentine’s Day, sex toys are fun and easy to add to sex. Vibrators, dildos, and other toys shouldn’t be seen as competition but as a tool that enhances pleasure. Sure, they’re fun to use for a solitary wank, but with a bit of creativity and an open mind, they can be even more fun when you’re ready to get busy with your partner.

Have you tried any of these methods? Are sex toys part of your relationship? Let us know in the comments below!

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